Experts say that almost everyone goes through depression at some point in their lives. Feeling low and depressed is a sign. It is a sign to take time out and pay attention to your self and your own needs. It a sign that you have been ignoring your self and your emotional needs for a long time. It is a sign that you have been running around trying to make a living or whatever it is you need to do to keep things running, all the while ignoring your emotions that were saying “too much, too much, can’t take it anymore”.This is when the body and mind goes “ Whoa! time out, take a break, I NEED TO BREATH!”.
If its too much and you are feeling suicidal, please get in touch with your doctor or a psychiatrist and let them guide you to health and happiness. Believe me they do a marvellous job, work with them. Remember death is not an end all session into nothingness. Its a transition from physical to non physical. You carry all your memories and emotions with you. So you will not be leaving it behind you take your problems with you. If you want to deal with them in this life and give yourself the beautiful life experience you deserve , then below are some pointers on what you can do to get yourself back up. This time when you get up, which you will, don’t run around like a headless chicken, get your priorities straight and remember “Slow and steady will always win the race”without fail!
1 – Make a decision
Ask your self, have you had enough and are you sick of being miserable and depressed?
OR Do you want to experience it some more?
If you have answered YES to the first question, then make a decision, say to yourself, “I want to go back to feeling like my self again”. The day you make this decision is the day everything will change for you. This will be the day you take control of your life back and make it what it needs to be.
2- Start by taking baby steps of happiness
Depression is at the core an emotional issue that also manifests into physical symptoms like chronic exhaustion and low energy. So the change needs to start with the emotions, first. Start by gathering little moments of happiness on daily basis. Don’t underestimate the value of little pockets of joy you can squeeze in your boring routine activities . Spend time doing little things that give you pleasure, like cooking your favourite meal or ordering it to eat in watching your favourite rom-com or sci-fi thriller, savouring each bite, feeling it on your tongue, smelling it and relishing it all the way. Get back to your lost hobbies and do them just because they give you so much joy. If you enjoyed painting in the past start painting again, if you like to boogie start dancing, if you like karaoke start singing. Give your self these little moments of joy everyday. Live for these little joys of live. As a child I always loved Timon and Pumba’s motto, “Hakuna matata”. No worries, for the rest of your day. Live each day as it comes, in the moment, just for the simple pleasures of life. Where is the worrying about all the important things taking you anyway?
3- Little exercise goes a long way
Next pay attention to your physical body. As you build up your emotional body your physical body will start to feel more energetic and less lethargic. This is the time to indulge into light physical activity, feel good types. I am not talking about the muscle building heavy workout, unless that is something that makes you feel good. Do what feels right for you. Simple breathing exercises and stretches, a walk in the park, light yoga or pilates would be more appropriate.
4 – Finding support groups
Find local support groups of people going through the same experience as you. You have no idea how healing it is to connect with someone having the same experience as us. It makes us feel understood at a completely different level. Just listening to others’ stories makes us feel we are not alone and empowers us to share our own while feeling un judged or under pressure to act/perform a certain way in the society. Find a group which will make you feel supported and allow you to be honest and vulnerable in a liberating way.
6 – Practising mindfulness and asking the right questions
Once you feel strong enough to contemplate the big questions, its time to take decisions again. Ask yourself, what you want your life to be. Visualise it, dream it, see it, feel it, touch it. Once you have a decision for where you want to be, start writing down your priorities step by step. Give your self little targets, you know you can achieve. Start by making your bed everyday, thats a big achievement, give yourself a pat on the back and keep achieving your goals one by one.
7 – Be kind to yourself
Remember to be kind to yourself in this process. Being mean to yourself in your head is not going to help you achieve your goals faster. It is only going to help reduce your self-confidence and self-worth. Do not say words to yourself that you wouldn’t say to your best friend in the face of a failure. What is failure anyway, just a perspective. 3M one of the most successful and resilient company’s of the world once failed to make a glue that could stick, instead it made a glue that didn’t stick. Today, we know that glue as the ‘post-it’ notes. Imagine where our life would be without these wonderful little notes. Failure is an unexpected opportunity to invent something new!